Sexual abstinence is the practice of voluntarily refraining from some or all aspects of sexual activity. Common reasons to deliberately abstain from the physical expression of sexual desire include religious or philosophical reasons (e.g. chastity), material reasons (to prevent conception (undesired pregnancy) or STD transmission), or to conform to legal injunctions.
Abstinence as a lifestyleAlthough many individuals abstain from sex for complex reasons such as religion or morality, for some individuals sexual abstinence is simply a lifestyle choice. Those individuals who fall into this category may have a dislike of sex, or are simply not interested in it. They may view sex as an unnecessary part of human life. As with other lifestyle choices, this attitude toward sex and relationships can vary greatly. Some who choose such a lifestyle still accept sex for reproduction, some engage in romantic relationships, and some engage in masturbation.   from Wikipedia
Celibacy is defined by the dictionary as an abstinencefrom sexual relations. And since I only have sexual relations with myself, I think I can consider myself celibate. So why do I do it? Is it becuase I’ve had traumatic experiences in sex? Or is it because no one would have sex with me? 
Neither. My celibacy, the absence of sexual relations with other men (and women? oh please, humor me!) is a choice.
I don’t wanna come clean and project a Maria Clara image, but lately, I’ve been too much of a prude when it comes to actual consummation. I’d rather do it by myself. Self-help helps. Besides, I have a lot of resources to aid me in this self-help journey.
This temporary celibacy can be alluded to different reasons, namely:
- laziness
- absence of a partner
- fear of disease
- the Internet
I am a workaholic and when I get home, all I wanna do is just lay down on my bed and snuggle up with my pillows.
As for the sexual partner, there are lots of people to choose from. I have accounts on different gay social networking sites, and modesty aside, I do get offers for one-night stands. Also, I think I’m in a life phase where one gets tired of looking for hookups and whatnots. I’ve been there, done that. In my younger years, and when I was actively seeking for hookups, I’ve always believed that people who said that “sex is better when it’s done with someone you love is better” are idiots. Now I’m eating my words. I’m at that stage in my life when I want sex to be meaningful, intimate and romantic. My libido now prefers vanilla over chocolate chip or rocky road.
A few months back, when I still lived an active lifestyle, I did not really care much about contracting sexually-transmitted diseases. I believed that since I used a condom, and since I always practiced safe sex, I wouldn’t contract any disease. I haven’t and I don’t intend to. News reports of increasing numbers of infected people has made me a little paranoid. So safer sex is self-sex.
I don’t own a television set (by choice) and the only form of entertainment I have at home is my computer and the Internet. I’d rather be hooked reading blogs and news articles than go through the hullabaloo of meeting up with someone and going through the rituals of coffee, small talk and eventually leading to copulation. It’s now already too much for me, if you get my drift.
This choice is like everything else in the world – temporary. I may eat my words sooner or later, but I think I will go on with this celibacy thing until I find Mr. Right. That is if Mr. Right even exists. If he doesn’t, a Mr. Right Now will do. But we all know that I’m too dreamy and idealistic about all this. Point of the matter is, I will only have sex when my Knight in Shining Armour comes along to sweep me off my feet. (But I didn’t say that it’s him whom I will have sex with, did I?)
Now excuse me while I Multiply.
Charmosity!
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