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I remember signing up for my very first gay dating site – Downelink. It was years and I remember why I signed up. Two reasons actually: to get laid and to find myself a boyfriend.  Months later, I signed up for guys4men (which is not planetromeo), gaydar, manjam, connexion, etc.  And in 2009, I had accounts and memberships to over 15 sites catering to gay dating.

I don’t think having an account with any of these is bad – whatever one’s reasons for joining may be. In fact, I personally think that it’s one good way of finding whatever it is a gay man is looking for. In fact I have found whatever I was looking for – people to have sex with, a boyfriend or two, textmates and friends.

And a week or two ago, I signed on to each and every single gay dating site and deleted my accounts and memberships. Yes, I deleted my accounts and cancelled my memberships in gay social networking sites and gay dating sites.  Why I did, I really don’t know.  I just thought of doing so one time as I was walking home from work.

There are many reasons why people delete their accounts.  It could be privacy issues, they found someone, that someone is extremely jealous and asks that both their accounts be deleted, they found a regular fuck buddy, they realize they have too many stalkers, or they don’t get what they want from the sites (hindi bumebenta).

My reason? It was just out of whim.  I have actually thought about it before, but didn’t have enough courage to do so. So when I finally did, I did not waste a minute and started deleting my accounts (the ones that I remember). Besides, I have never really “hooked up” with anyone from these sites in more than two or three years.  The “friendship” that people are talking about on these sites constantly eludes me.  Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now does not seem to have an account with any of these sites as well.

So yeah, I quit gay social networking.  But who knows, maybe I’ll sign up again in the near future (pag kinati? lol).

I guess my upcoming birthday gave me the inspiration to think and rethink my life.  I have started my quest to STOP (not quit, mind you) SMOKING and I’m currently on Day 6. I have a new dog. And I quit social networking. Who knows what changes will come along with my birthday season.